A - Rochester

Rochester now seems to love his wife, in a certain way at least.

He speaks of the rain in a positive way (l. 1-2). He compares it to growing love, even orgasm.
l. 2: “playful […], growing louder […], more powerful […], inexorable”.
He also compares it to music, a music of love.
l. 2: a music he had “never heard before” live a new feeling.

Now, he wishes he hadn’t had those “doubts and hesitations” (l. 4 & cf. p.36).

He now likes his environment (cf. the scene at the bathing pools in the forest p.52) and his liking for the mountain people he used to mistrust (l. 36).

B - Antoinette

At first, Antoinette yielded to him, but “coldly and unwillingly” (l. 6).
She was distant, aloof (synonym of distant), because she’d been forced to marry him. Then, she “forgot silence and coldness” (l. 8).
She was beginning to love him.
Eventually (finally), she is deep in love.
l. 10: “I never wished to live before I knew you. She smiles at herself in the looking glass, enjoying her own image”.
Not so in the rest of the novel.

She is normally happy, “like any other girl” (l. 16).
Like for him, physical satisfaction is important but she adds feeling to it.

A - Rochester

Death is close to love in their relationship, is never far from day.
It’s at night that Antoinette’s fear rise again.

l.10-28: “She whispers in darkness”; “I wish I could die…”; “Always this talk of death, says Rochester”.
It’s at night that Rochester “felt danger” (l. 38).

All his misgivings and negative feelings rise up again.
He even seems to resent loving her.

l. 41: “She was a stranger to me” he repeats.
l. 40: “I did not love her”.

Sexual pleasure makes up for love. He is breathless and savage with desire (l. 43). After love, he “turned away from her” (l. 44).

To him, orgasm is equated to a little death.
l.30: “I watched her die many times”; “In my way”.

Desire comes close to hatred (murder) life to death (l. 60). Wonder if she ever guessed how near she came to dying.
l. 59: “In her way, not in him”.

Rochester can’t tell love from hate. He is confused and muddled.

B - Antoinette

For her happiness constantly merges into fear. She fears she might lose Rochester / love while she is happy.  She wishes she could die “when [she] is happy” (l. 28).
l. 25: “I’m not used to happiness”; “It makes me afraid”; “She knows that love has to end up in death”.

She is pessimistic at heart. She refuses any possibility of love. She pushes it away.

At the end, rain no longer stands for love; it now means everlasting sleep i.e. death (l. 63).
Their reproach to love is rather self-destructive. They try their best not to love each other but to spoil whatever chances they have.